I’ve carried further weight since center faculty—nothing extreme—simply an extra 10 to fifteen kilos that I can’t appear to lose it doesn’t matter what I attempt.
It lastly occurred to me that it could be emotional—a unconscious protection mechanism to assist me really feel much less enticing, much less noticeable, and due to this fact safer.
In studying Amy Griffin’s new e-book, The Inform, about suppressed childhood sexual trauma, I acknowledged myself in a few of her trauma response behaviors—the necessity to continually keep in movement and distracted, unable to recollect particular features of childhood, and frequently looking for exterior validation to keep away from having to expertise inner emotions.
On some stage, I additionally knew there was a cause I started to hold further weight and attempt to make myself invisible after center faculty. I knew one thing was there, however I used to be not sure the way to course of it, so I stored shifting and distracting myself.
I usually joke that once I don’t know what to do, I do nothing. In some methods, this may need served me effectively—as a result of in relation to intensely painful and traumatic experiences that you just have no idea the way to course of, diving in with out steerage and help may truly make the state of affairs worse, a little bit bit like opening Pandora’s field—which is a little bit of what Amy Griffin particulars within the e-book.
Over the previous few years, I’ve been enjoying with totally different trauma launch instruments—together with important oils, somatic remedy, and different frequency drugs—to assist shift the vitality of the trauma with out the necessity to relive and re-experience it.
What’s Emotional Weight?
Emotional weight is further physique weight that you just emotionally “maintain onto.”
Extra weight could also be used as a bodily and emotional protect to render your self much less enticing to the alternative intercourse, particularly should you skilled trauma, abuse, or undesirable consideration on account of your bodily look.
Carrying further weight might assist create a perceived bodily barrier between you and the remainder of the world, defending you in opposition to additional hurt. On a deeper stage, weight acquire generally is a unconscious approach to keep away from undesirable consideration or sexual advances.
It could assist you to really feel extra invisible or much less susceptible. In case you don’t stand out, you won’t get damage. In case you expertise powerlessness or disgrace over one thing associated to your look, minimizing your look might really feel like one of many few choices you could have out there to guard your self from future hurt.
That is usually a unconscious selection—or unconscious protection mechanism—as you might not even actively keep in mind the abuse. After studying The Inform and overlaying a few of Amy Griffin’s experiences with my very own life, I can see how we merely select to overlook what is simply too painful to recollect.
Indications of Emotional Weight
It’s not unusual to suppress traumatic recollections, so even when you don’t recall the trauma or abuse that may have prompted you to hold emotional weight, the bodily, psychological, and emotional character traits beneath are frequent amongst survivors of abuse.
Concern of Vulnerability or Mistrust: In case you skilled trauma and felt unsupported, you might battle to belief others or really feel secure being susceptible with others. You might concern getting damage or rejected or count on to be ‘let down,’ so that you both isolate your self or change into too clingy or over-dependent.
Management: Trauma will not be one thing most individuals would select, so the expertise of trauma might really feel like an expertise that was exterior of your management or in opposition to your will. Within the aftermath of this expertise wherein you might have felt powerless, you may go to extra extraordinary lengths to aim to manage small issues in your life or discover it arduous to say ‘no’ when vital or assert your individual wants. This may occasionally additionally current as behaving aggressively and making an attempt to manage others to regain management.
Sympathetic Dominance: Your sympathetic nervous system—your “fight-or-flight” response—retains you secure and may change into overactive in response to bodily or emotionally irritating or harmful conditions, together with these traumatic experiences you could have but to course of. This may current as anxiousness or hyper-vigilance—a state of feeling continually ‘on guard’ or apprehensive about security and searching for potential threats—or an exaggerated concern of hazard or concern that one thing horrible goes to occur.
Dissociation: A standard coping mechanism if in case you have skilled trauma, Dissociation is an adaptive or unconscious response to risk and is a type of “freezing” and disconnecting out of your senses, ideas, emotions, feelings, or recollections. You might really feel indifferent out of your physique or environment. You shut right down to take away your self from a state of affairs in your individual thoughts when bodily escape will not be potential.
Ache: Ache may end up from a chronic stress response to trauma. The nervous system stays alert, resulting in muscle pressure, irritation, and different pain-related circumstances, together with headache, again ache, or joint ache.
Intestine points: Your digestive system is inclined to emphasize and emotional misery. Gastrointestinal problems, akin to irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), stomach ulcers, and chronic indigestion, might happen in adults who’ve skilled trauma.
Autoimmune problems: Extreme stress and trauma can set off or worsen autoimmune conditions the place your immune system mistakenly assaults wholesome tissues.
Tough feelings: You might really feel low, unhappy, anxious, offended, or irritable. You may additionally really feel intense emotions of guilt or disgrace, or ‘being guilty’ particularly should you had been manipulated or compelled to maintain the abuse a secret – or tried guilty you for the abuse. These emotions of disgrace can have an effect on shallowness, contributing to emotions together with ‘ineffective,’ ‘totally different,’ ‘dangerous,’ ‘soiled,’ ‘not adequate,’ or ‘nugatory,’ and these can change into core self-beliefs. You may additionally really feel overly self-critical, anticipating an excessive amount of of your self—generally known as ‘perfectionism’—or others skilled as criticism or judgment.
- Lack of focus: Survival mind makes it arduous to pay attention. You may need hassle ending one exercise in a targeted method or the way you “normally” can.
- Poor reminiscence: You might solely keep in mind small fragments of what occurred or be unable to recall entire durations of your childhood. You could have buried the recollections till you might be extra prepared to deal with them. Like dissociation, reminiscence loss is a pure protection mechanism developed to assist defend your self from recalling distressing and overwhelming experiences.
- Fatigue: You might really feel extra mentally fatigued and rapidly drained.
- Emotionally reactive: You might end up crying simply, overacting emotionally with anger or aggression, or feeling grumpy, depressed, or snippy when your survival mind is operating the present.
Important Oils to Launch Emotional Weight
One in every of my targets in processing trauma—particularly trauma that’s so intense that my acutely aware thoughts has chosen to suppress it—is to not essentially relive it however as an alternative to softly launch it.
Important oils and different frequency medicines are mild, pure mechanisms to help this simple, non-traumatic launch of trauma from the physique. It has been my expertise that important oils can, in essence, assist to erase and rewrite emotional recollections and the related thought patterns.
That is partly as a result of how trauma and reminiscence are saved within the mind and the way your sense of odor can journey on to the emotional heart of the mind, generally known as the limbic system.
If you inhale important oils, the odor molecules journey by means of the nasal cavity and set off electrical impulses to the olfactory, which then transmits the impulses to the amygdala, the a part of the mind the place emotional recollections are saved.
Your sense of odor hyperlinks on to emotional states and behaviors usually saved since childhood. In truth, of the 5 bodily senses, odor is the one one immediately linked to the mind’s limbic lobe—our emotional management heart. Nervousness, despair, concern, anger, and pleasure all bodily originate from this area. All different bodily senses are routed by means of the thalamus, which acts because the switchboard for the mind, passing stimuli onto the cerebral cortex, the acutely aware thought heart, and different elements of the mind.
This robust connection between odor and the mind’s emotional heart might clarify why a selected scent can evoke highly effective recollections and feelings. Important oils allow us to entry saved or forgotten recollections and suppressed feelings to acknowledge, combine, or launch and transmute them.
The phrase “emotion” may be translated as “vitality in movement.” Emotion is the expertise of vitality shifting by means of your physique. This emotional vitality works at a better velocity than thought. Thought and pictures can take seconds or minutes to evoke a reminiscence, whereas odor can evoke a reminiscence in milliseconds. Forgotten recollections and suppressed feelings can wreak havoc in our lives, usually being the unsourced causes of despair, anxiousness, and fears. Important oils may help you launch and transmute these feelings wherever they’re saved within the physique or vitality subject with out re-experiencing or reliving them.
Bladder Support™ Important Oil to Launch Emotional Weight
Your physique intuitively is aware of what it wants. Simply as you may crave a hamburger whenever you want iron or chocolate whenever you want magnesium, you’ll intuitively be drawn to particular important oil blends when they’re more likely to profit you.
Vibrant Blue Oils Bladder Support™ mix was particularly formulated to assist overcome and heal emotional traumas and clear the residual emotional particles usually saved within the bladder, together with sexual trauma.
This mix by no means appealed to me personally till I started to do that work. If you end up able to launch and transmute previous energetic patterns, the instruments that will assist you to with that course of might odor totally different and considerably extra fascinating.
As you might know, your bladder is a pear-shaped muscular sac within the pelvis, situated simply above and behind the pubic bone, that shops and eliminates liquid waste.
In Chinese language drugs, the bladder can also be thought-about a storehouse for feelings, managing emotional reserves and overflow. If you really feel internally empty of reserves, every part appears an excessive amount of to deal with, unsure, and scary. Equally, when feelings are overflowing, you might really feel awash in an inner torrent, drowning, uncontrolled, and pushed to desperation.
Usually, these overwhelming feelings really feel an excessive amount of to deal with within the second, so you might retailer them within the bladder till you possibly can course of and transfer by means of them.
Vibrant Blue Oils Emotion Bladder Support™ mix lets you let go of the destructive previous and launch the emotional trauma from the physique. It assists in overcoming emotions of despair and the sensation of being pushed over the sting. It accommodates the next supportive important oils:
Frankincense (Boswellia carterii): Could assist relieve anxiousness, nervous pressure, and stress-related circumstances. Frankincense can also be recognized to assist promote emotions of security and assist overcome concern of the longer term.
Geranium (Pelargonium Graveolens): Soothes anxiousness and reduces stress. It helps help acute concern and overcome abuse, damage, and the additional weight you may carry to guard your self from future damage.
Helichrysum italicum: Helps to heal and regenerate nerves and connective tissue. It could assist help your adrenal glands to optimize stress-handling capability.
Lavender (Lavandula angustifolia): Lifts temper and helps steadiness temper swings. It normalizes feelings and brings deep rest. It could assist help irritability, moodiness, shock, fears, insecurity, restlessness, despair, nerves, and stress.
Petitgrain Bigarade (Citrus aurantium var amara): Helps ease panic, anger, and anxiousness and relieves nervous exhaustion, despair, stress, and psychological fatigue. It could additionally stimulate the acutely aware thoughts to help clear notion and focus.
Rose (Rosa Damascene): Helps to alleviate stress, anxiousness, apathy, despair, and indifference. It may well additionally help vitality, confidence, and a constructive temper.
Sandalwood (Santalum album): Might be very grounding and stabilizing. It could assist overcome low self-confidence, grief, and concern and mean you can really feel secure.
Spruce (Tsuga canadensis): Helps the nervous and glandular techniques. It mentally grounds, helps steadiness the photo voltaic plexus and promotes emotions of security.
Valerian Root (Valeriana jatamansi): Thought-about the perfect oil for sedative and calming properties. Helps any pressure, restlessness, agitation, and panic assaults. It helps calm the thoughts and positively redirect ideas.
Inhalation of Bladder Support™ mix: Take a deep breath, then slowly inhale and exhale the oil for 3-7 breaths, letting your physique know you might be secure with each inhalation. On the exhale, concentrate on releasing any feelings, trauma, or different previous or caught vitality that not serves you.
You might take into account including the next affirmation:
“I’m secure. It’s secure to let go of the trauma. It’s secure to let go of the additional weight. It’s secure for me to be seen once more.”
You might shake, cough, or really feel the vitality shifting. In case you cease smelling it, you may additionally know that the oil is working.
You can too add Bladder Support™ mix to tub water to assist launch the feelings to launch previous or current emotions of damage, concern, abandonment, and abuse. I discover that it helps concentrate on the odor and the current second within the tub. Concentrating in your 5 senses—odor, style, contact, sight, and sound may help floor you within the current second and shift you out of previous trauma or future worries.
Grounding, or mentally and bodily connecting to the therapeutic vitality of nature and the Earth, may help help your readability and perspective to launch trauma triggers.
You possibly can carry the mix with you and inhale as usually as wanted for so long as wanted till the trauma begins to clear.
Topical Software: Topically apply 2-3 drops over the bladder (simply above and behind the pubic bone), immediately over any areas the place you could be carrying emotional weight, or across the exterior of earlobes or the underside of the toes.
This chart exhibits particular utility factors on the ears.
This chart exhibits particular utility factors on the toes.
Topical utility generally is a highly effective device. Your pores and skin is comparatively permeable to fat-soluble substances like important oils, making topical or transdermal utility extraordinarily efficient. Topical utility additionally bypasses the abdomen and liver, which might chemically alter the therapeutic results of medicine and important oils.
It is very important observe that totally different utility factors yield totally different outcomes. You possibly can considerably amplify your outcomes by deliberately making use of important oils to particular therapeutic factors generally known as acupuncture factors or reflexology factors correlated with specific organ techniques or areas of the mind.
